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Why is it always the first one to be celebrated? All the others surely had to put forth the same effort. Is it all just about the feeling of being elevated from the others? How are you coping with this feeling of being first? Often we wait a long time and work very hard for winning something. And then we win. We stand alone with a beating heart, waiting for the reward, and we somehow end up feeling lonely. Why is there always a goodbye after a hello? And why we just can not say, quite simply, that the things we did till now were just a prologue for what will follow? Because, because because… Because nothing will happen if it is not dreamed first.

The world is just like this and it will not change in any generation. The winner takes it all, the loser is standing small. We love the winner, we love the power of success, the fact that this person did something extraordinary and is thus someone special. Studies proved that if someone posts a success story on his or her facebook page, the number of friendship requests jumps up tremendously. We want to be associated with those in the light, not those in the shadow. After all, we all know that when darkness comes into our life even our shadow will leave us. Do you know where you are heading and, before you start your journey, do you know who you are?

Recently during a very serious business meeting one manager of a huge company told me that because of his Chinese cards, he does not always know who he is. My response was clear and fast, of the serve – volley kind: I many times also do not know who I am. The good news, however, is that I am able to remember quite quickly who I am and I manage to beam myself back to reality after the wonderful journey to the dreamworld, where everything can end exactly the way we want it to.

Sometimes you win but in reality the victory feels more like defeat. The price you have to pay is high. If you are successful you have only few friends, because you are not sure for which reasons they stick with you. So you keep your distance in an attempt to avoid hurt feelings and disappointment, which could hinder your efforts to climb the highest mountain.

And then – you win. You think everyone is happy for you, but just in that moment the biggest enemy of mankind shows its dark face – enviousness.

The real victory in life is to be yourself. To wake up and go to bed with the feeling that you did the best you could, that you regret what you did wrong, and you are able to recognize both.

Each player must accept the cards life deals him or her: but once they are in hand, he or she alone must decide how to play the cards in order to win the game.


So seriously, the wining should not be an issue. You win when you are able to make fun of yourself – that is already a huge achievement.

Couple weeks ago I had a very important meeting in London. In fact, it was extremely important since the result of this meeting would have a real impact on our ongoing project. So I sat at the restaurant, ordered water (big bottle like always) and lemon (like always). And while I was talking away, I caught a glimpse of something yellow out of the right corner of my eyes. So, I grabbed the “lemon”, put it in my water and kept talking. Just then, the waiter passed by and with a little smile on his face he told me, that the food is already on its way and that the orchid in my glass might not be very healthy.

So, imagine you are eating the orchid, believing it is lemon, and at the same time you want to convince your business partner that you are actually a very reasonable person. “I did it on purpose” I said, but at least in Italian language.

Winning means losing. ;-)))

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