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….the land between Euphrat and Tigris, the land between two rivers, the land in between. Do you live in Mesopotamia? Well I do. I live in the old world (Vienna) and the new world (prague), I do live in Europe and I live in the USA, i live in this kind of business and in the other business. I am a tough businessperson (at least this is what the others say) and I am a kind of artist, with all the attributes, that an artist is equipped with. Mesopotamia is also when people cannot decide, or when they are in a transitionphase. Where to go? And what to do? Which side is better and will this decision stay good for a long time. For ever is an illusion. 

I learned in my life that it is important to not rush, but when the decision is done, to do it and to stick with it no matter what will happen and if the decision in turning out to be not optimal, then it is a lession that I had to go through and to understand why it came to that decision. 

It starts with little things, what to wear and what to choose. Whom to believe and where to go? Every day is full of decisions and this hell that my beloved friend S. is going through, I can immagine. S. is a notoric Notdecider. She is torn between red and blue, and John and Steve :-)) …………………….(even I would take Steve), I can hardly understand, because I am the Megadecider and there are these moments when I know that it was too fast and I cannot take it back, but then I have to stick with it, and this part is the lection, that I went through many times. But I stay with my personal quote that says :” You can never be halfpregnant”    ……………………How I love this sentence that is used in many occasions and I guess how many people hate me for it. But it is true, decide and go for it. This is for the big things and goes for the little things. How many times did we send an email with a stupid message and were not sure to press the SEND button, and once you press it you feel like, no no no no. But maybe the person on the other side feels the same when your name pops up and the excitment is the same, in good and bad. There are many people in my telefonregister who I feel like no no no no, when his or her number is poping up. And it happened that a new number was calling in and I did not recognize it and my voice was fresh and nice and innocent (what I am when the relation is young and fresh :-)) and it was the man I delete mentally and really from my life and phonebook.

You can compare it with the opera. Your voice goes from sopran to mezzosopran to Bass and your face is changing from Ciderella to Werwolf. The conversation goes like “Hello, who is speaking?”……..truiliiii to “whoOOOO?”, realizing that you were friendly to someone you did not want to be, to “say your name again” (to gain time and think how to do the next nasty step) to  (this is my favourite) “Can you spell it”…………………………….NOw this person is delete, really, at least from his side. 

Phone calls are bad for interpersonal relations, in business and private, that is what I read recently. It does not allow the human being to read the emotions and the body language, which is crucial for us to make a real and good assumption over the situation. The email and phone , whereas the phone does at least allow the sound of the voice, but still there is too much space to interpret and it leads to many misunderstandings and because of this too many unnecessary steps on both sides are take for nothing. The communication in important matters is still an all over communication, and it requires personal contact, gesture, body language, and everything that we tried to ignore over the evolution. But this is what makes business travelling important and never stopping. The big deals are done personally only. 

Here to understand what I mean

The man in the baloon

A man in a hot air balloon is lost. He sees a man on the ground and reduces height to speak to him.

“Excuse me, can you tell me where I am?”

“You’re in a hot air balloon hovering thirty feet above this field,” comes the reply.

“You must work in Information Technology,” says the balloonist.

“I do,” says the man, “How did you know?”

“Well,” says the balloonist, “Everything you told me is technically correct, but it’s no use to anyone.”

“You must be in business,” says the man.

“I am,” says the balloonist, “How did you know?”

“Well,” says the man, “You don’t know where you are, you don’t know where you’re going, but you expect me to be able to help. You’re in the same position you were before we met, but now it’s my fault.”

source, 12.1.2012

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