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Archive for July, 2012




How do you  cope with change? What are you afraid of? Is it the uncertainty? Or simply the
move out of the comfortzone? Welcome to this world, the world of new things,
new impressions, the courage to try all you never though that you can manage.
The  challenge is to cope, or even strive.

It is the  fear that what we so hardly have  achieved will change, or maybe it is the
fear that it will be the same, so we should welcome the change as this is what
makes the new conditions.

Change is  luck, the ability to do something new, to go somewhere else and to dare to
expose yourself to the unknown  whichn makes us finally feel free. Those  who do not risk, are nothing, have nothing
and will never do something real.

The biggest  achievements in love, life and business are connected with taking big risks.
The higher the goal the bigger the risk. This wise sentence is from His
Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama, and I am very honoured to call him a

It is never  too late for a change, never. We know when it is time to eat or to leave that
wonderful party (we do not always knowJ) and so we should  know when it is time for the next change.

Anaiis Nin  said it very clear :” if the pain of growing is less than the pain of staying
small – one has to move”


i think one should celebrate the victories and mourne over the losses

after 7 months of work, we did it and it was the biggest achievment we could have, what a great feeling, now celebration and then some rest, will come back with a new post soon



Is your EGO under control? Do you need more of it to stand the competition of your colleagues, who use your ideas for their own benefit? Have your EGO ever nearly killed you? What are we willing to do for it? We could speak ages about that. EGO is important for survival – that is the good and important news. But as with everything else, the right calibration is the key. Looking back I realize, that I did a lot of things because of EGO and I regret them now. But maybe it helped me to get where I am at this moment. Or maybe it prevented me from getting even further. I am not sure. The only thing that I can see very clearly is the EGO of others, in both its good and bad manifestations. And I also notice the fact, that some of the protagonists do not even realize that their actions are driven by EGO.

As my friend Sigmund Freud stated, the EGO is the driver and in dangerous situations people are ready to do crazy things and even to commit a crime to defend and increase it, depending on their SUB EGO, which is the command center for the EGO.

Ovid Quote

According to Freud, the ego is part of personality that mediates the demands of the id, the superego and reality. The ego prevents us from acting on our basic urges (created by the id), but also works to achieve a balance with our moral and idealistic standards (created by the superego). While the ego operates in both the preconscious and conscious, it’s strong ties to the id means that it also operates in the unconscious.

The ego operates based on the reality principle, which works to satisfy the id’s desires in a manner that is realistic and socially appropriate. For example, if a person cuts you off in traffic, the ego prevents you from chasing down the car and physically attacking the offending driver. The ego allows us to see that this response would be socially unacceptable, but it also allows us to know that there are other more appropriate means of venting our frustration.

Some Enneagram systems as well as some spiritual movements view the ego as the enemy. It is something that we must kill or eliminate. These approaches regard awakened person as someone, who is free of ego, and who functions only from essence with no trace of the ego structure.

From the perspective presented here: the ego or fixation is seen as a poor imitation or distant cousin to essence. In its misguided distortion of truth it is reaching for its true nature. Freedom from the constraints of the ego structure begins in the first recognition of its falseness.


In order for the ego to be transmuted it must be accepted and allowed. In this total allowing and acceptance of the ego structure or fixation, the depth of the wound can be discovered and exposed. It is by going into the wound, created by the distorted perception of the fixation, that it is healed, and transcended. (Copyright© 2003-4 Lissa Friedman)

In my personal experience the worst people are those who say that their EGO practically does not exist, because in fact their EGO is so huge that one has to suffer later when believing this. Is EGO a wish for attention? Well, yes and no. Imagine a project where you have worked on for several weeks, maybe even months. Then comes the day when you present it and two guys do not show up, one comes late and the remaining five members of the team are texting under the table on their mobile phones. Your EGO is sitting on your shoulder like a little monkey. Maybe it has been there all your life and was growing as you did, in both the physical and the semantic way. The little monkey is constantly whispering into your ear that it needs to be seen, and seen, and seen…. and all of a sudden, you find yourself doing something stupid, such as raising your voice to the disinterested crowd which finally has a reason to feel unjustified and realize what they should have been doing all along – TO LISTEN.

It is important to keep growing, to never stop improving. The poorest people are those, who have been stuck on the third level of the infinite scale, where vanity is at home, and lack of introspection does not allow them to move on. It reminds me of the story of Iliad and Odyssey. The Greek hero spent some time on the Island of the Sirens, where he got everything he ever dreamed of. For long time he forgot about his mission and it took many years and fights before he was finally able to break free.  When his ship was leaving the island, he asked his fellow sailors to bind him in the mast and putt wax into his ears so he could resist the tone of the singing sirens, who have been calling out, seducing him and feeding his EGO and pride.

We depend on the strong need we have within us to be seen, heard or known. We are locked or seduced to do things, which lead us away from our main target, that is our spiritual growth and the fact that we got all these tools to just do one thing according to the evolution – to survive.